Each one of us has had that one special lady in our lives. The one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and the to-die-for face. She is the one who dates the more “adept” guys. So, the question is: how can you get her to like YOU?

The short answer is that you become an alpha male, and the longer answer is found in the book profiled on the following How To Become An Alpha Male page.

For now, let’s concentrate on what can be said about this process in the space of a single page.

While men are mainly attracted to a woman because of the way she looks, women are attracted to men because of their personality. The perfect man, for them, is the alpha male who has confidence in himself and who is not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life.

Generally, what this means is that the best way to get a girl to like you is to make her feel like she has EARNED you.

This works because to get a girl to really like you, you need to exhibit a mindset of high value. Never appeal to her from a position of neediness.

So the best way to think about approaching a particular woman requires a mindset that includes:

1. Nonchalance.

2. Disregard for the outcome of whether or not she decides she likes you. (By which I mean, if she likes you, great, but if not, there are always other women out there who are just as great as she is.)

The essential point to understand here is that a girl should never be a challenge for you. Instead you need to be a challenge for her.

Besides placing a high value on yourself, you should also eliminate any neediness on your part by cultivating your social network. Make friends with as many women as possible. (Fortunately, girls are very easy to make friends with.)

Also, try to date as many women as possible. Do not restrict yourself by dating only “that one special girl.”

Why? Because the one thing you do not want to be going through your mind when you are around that special woman is the thought that, “God, I MUST have her! She’s absolutely unique!” Having a surplus of ladies in your life will ensure you avoid thinking this way.

Besides, when a girl notices that other girls are attracted to you, she will also experience attraction. Psychologically, this is known as the phenomenon of “social proof” and it is much more effective in women than men.

Have you ever seen the way your female friends drool over some guy in the bar who has got four women at his table? That is social proof in action.

By the way, it is all right to believe that a girl is beautiful and to feel heightened emotions for her.

Here is the important part though – you always need to remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women available, many of whom who are just as wonderful as the girl you really like.

If you start to convince yourself that any girl is one of a kind, that gives her total power over you, and, ironically, she will lose any attraction she has for you.

So, you are free to think that a woman is amazing. But remember that plenty of other girls are amazing too. That way you will not become needy.

So, the moral of the story is this: you should place a high value on yourself, you should have her earn your attention, and you should spend time with as many women as you can. Use these three essential techniques for how to get a girl to like you and you will see amazing results very soon.

If you need more details on the strategies suggested here, check out the books on dating, where you will find reviews of the top rated relationship books for men.

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Relationship books for men can be hard to read. Many are put together by guys who should never be allowed to get within ten feet of a keyboard. Almost half of the dating books for guys that I have read have fallen into this category. To save you time, money, and the frustration of realizing that you have made a bad choice in your selection of a dating advice guru, I am going to point you towards those books worthy of your attention.

In particular, I am going to concentrate on just 2 relationship books for men. If you elect to read either of these books you will discover a great deal about the nature of women, your relationship to them in the grand scheme of things, and how you can significantly improve your prospects of landing the woman of your dreams.

Now, I will admit that this sounds like a lofty goal. But consider the reality that most guys face when they begin dating in earnest. To begin with, none of us guys are given the user guide for women. To us, they might as well be alien invaders for all that we understand about how they think and why they do the things they do.

To make the situation even harder on ourselves, what we do learn about women through trial and error, we do not share with one another. Women are just the opposite. They make it their job to exchange stories with other women and build up some semblance of how the male animal responds to certain stimuli.

Not us, we take our suffering in silence and wonder what the heck is wrong with our approach. If failure with women seems to be the norm for you, you are not alone. Ninety percent of all the other guys out there are doing no better than you are. The other ten percent, the ones who appear to be having all the fun, well there is not a whole lot of reason for them to clue you into what you are doing wrong that is driving the women in their direction.

Yes, there are some incredible secrets about women that a few men have divined largely by accident, or through the sheer audacity of experimenting with methods that most guys would never be brave enough to try in a million years.

Fortunately, two of these guys have taken it upon themselves to educate the rest of us about what it is that they are doing right when it comes to woman. What makes this pair different from the rest of the dating gurus who clutter up the mens dating and seduction niche is that these two guys are very smart, they write with clarity, and they hit the nail on the head when it comes to trying to successfully understand the motivations of the women we would try to make our own.

The first of these writers is John Alexander, whose book you can find out more about on my How To Become An Alpha Male review page. John’s point of view is that it is useless to pursue women, and instead what a man ought to do is focus on himself, and train himself to become an alpha male – the kind of man that other guys automatically look up to and respect. If you can win with the guys, says John, the women tend to follow with no extra effort on your part. How you do that – and turn yourself into an alpha male is, of course, the subject of his book.

John’s philosophy is appealing, especially if you regard yourself as the kind of guy who has worked hard to be appealing to women but for whom success just seems to keep alluding you. As you will discover in his book, alpha males do not try to be appealing to anyone other than themselves, but in a way that naturally attracts the opposite sex.

The second writer is Michael Pilinski, whose book you can learn more about on my Without Embarrassment review page. Michael differs from John in two respects. He is slightly more the thinking man’s version of the dating guru, and he is discernibly more frustrated with all the learning experiences that he has been forced to go through in order to arrive at the point where he is now. His hard won successes with women did not come without battle scars, and he is not afraid to reveal them, because he understands that there are millions of other guys like him across the world that have experienced all the emotional hardships that he has experienced when dealing with the seemingly bizarre logic that women use to decide whether to admit a man into their life.

Well, Michael has figured out the secret female handshakes, and he is spilling the beans, because he does not feel all guys need suffer in the way that he did. The bottom line is that if you feel cursed when it comes to the ladies, Michael Pilinski is the fellow to read. Get yourself a copy of his book Without Embarrassment and be prepared to be blown away by the revelations that this guy has to make. You may never look at another women in quite the same way again!

So there you have it – two excellent mens dating and relationship titles to choose from. If you want a straightforward and mellow approach to conquering the hearts and minds of women you will want to go with John Alexander. If you think your issues with women run a little deeper, and that you may need to psychoanalyze yourself to get at the root of your problems, then Michael Pilinski is your man. But regardless of your decision, you really cannot go wrong with either of these dating books.

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