How To Save The Marriage And Make It Even Better? Part I.
Wednesday, 28. July 2010 15:20
It appears that the search your Beloved one – is only the part of the way. It is much more difficult to keep and improve that already you have. Sometimes it seems that easier just to leave. But it can always be done. Why not to try to keep what already is, improve, what will be and can be even to live together for the rest of the life? If to look at marriage as on an inhabitancy sphere, then it is not simply a place of satisfaction of physiological requirements: to eat-to sleep, to have sex. It is possible to look at marriage and on the other side: a place where we feel comfortable, quiet, a basis on which everyone can build his own life.
But such it is possible on the conditions of:
-Marriage is made on love and spouses are still interesting for each other;
-Both spouses realize that creation of this environment -is their joint care;
-None of them live for the sake of career-work-children.
How to make marriage better? There is one way for that.
The first thing. It is necessary to define what we have.
Age: of the spouses and the marriage. Education. Occupations. Presence or absence of children. Relations with relatives. Financial position. Residing place.
All these are very important. And does not matter at the same time. But it is necessary to consider all these factors, at least because they influence marriage by this or that way. Therefore it is obvious that marriage in itself – is only a signboard under which something is hidden something more, than simply love and desire to have children.
For example, the age of spouses influences a psychological climate of marriage! Psychologists know that each person during his life goes through the range of large and small age crises.
1st crisis (20-22 years). It arises in transition from idealized romantic representation about the partner and home life in general to more difficult vision. It appears that home life is not only a holiday, but also everyday life.
2nd crisis (24-26 years). Quite often arises in connection with necessity of acceptance of global decisions (How many children to have? What direction to choose in work for the future? In what way to achieve vital success?). Besides, there is a requirement to be individualized from the feeling “we”, to liberate a part own “me” for own development. It means the search of an alternative: “How not to lose “me” and not to restrain “me” of the partner.
3rd crisis (30-33 years). It is expressed in the conflict between feeling of an accessory to a family and desire freely to “leave” in an external world, to do career, to make independent decisions without consulting anybody. It is important not to lose the moment when the requirement for independence will outgrow at spouses in sensation of full freedom for one at the expense of submission of another. Often in this case the family instead of becoming a development source, turns into a burdensome burden.
4th crisis (37-40 years). Arises because we distinctly realize, for the first time, that the life is not internal that its second half cannot be better than the first one.
5th crisis (44-50 years). It is also called “crisis of an empty nest”. Adult children leave a parental family and begin an independent life. Deprived of possibility to sponsor or edify, the married couple loses meaning of existence.
6th crisis (50-65 years). Is a consequence of the most wrong conclusion: “My remained life passes in expectation of death, preparation for it”. Bringing this stereotype into life, some spouses call the associates especially close, to sponsor them and to be sorry, concentrate on their own painful experiences, they look at the world look as at an irritation source: “the Life passes by me”.
it is regrettable but the morning sun never lasts a day. It in full manner refers to relationships. Each day many people are up against the problem of how to get my ex back. At a glance, this problem is not something new but the question of how to get my ex back is still urgent for many of us.
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