Almost everyone will agree that communication is a major, if not the biggest key to a successful relationship, but if that’s so well known, then why don’t people just communicate and have happy, successful relationships? Because, there’s more to it than just communicating. You can try to communicate all day, but if you don’t know how to or have what it takes to be a good communicator, then your effort will be in vain and you may not even know why.

First, you need to know how to communicate with the person that you’re with. Everyone has their own way of communicating, not saying that there’s necessarily a specific right or wrong way to communicate, but most people just have their own way that they’ve developed over their lifetime. It works for them, and it’s hard to convince them that it needs to improve because it has worked for them over the years. What most people have to realize is that just because they can communicate well with certain people, doesn’t mean that they will communicate well with everyone else, because most people see things differently. That’s why teachers learn different modes of teaching. People intercept information in different ways.

That leads me to the second thing that most people need to learn if they want to be a good communicator. You must be an open-minded individual. If someone is willing to understand how you communicate, then you should be willing to understand how they communicate. Don’t assume that you just know based on previous relationships, and one of the worse things you can do is compare them to anyone else in your past. Just know that they’re a different person and they have to learn how to communicate with you just as much as you need to learn how to communicate with them. If you’re a stubborn person, and set in your ways, then you’re going to have a very difficult time trying to communicate with whoever you’re with because they’re going to feel as if all their words are being spoken in vain, and you’re going to confirm that feeling in every disagreement you have with them. Eventually, they’ll tire of the communication block and you’re relationship will whither because all relationships require communication.

Communication for a good relationship is like soil for a plant. Communication is necessary to initiate, nourish, and grow a healthy relationship. Through communication (verbal and non-verbal) we initiate relationships, build trust, build friendships, and most importantly we develop the basis of intimacy. Without these things, one could question if a good relationship exists at all. Personally, I believe that the most important thing to remember about communicating in your relationship, is that you should be understanding of how the other person feels, and where’ they’re coming from. They may not be the best at getting their point across and may be off the handle while trying to express themselves, but if you know that their intentions still mean well, and that you two still care about each other, and at the end of the day, you both want to stay together, make sure that’s the conclusion of any dialogue you have, especially disagreements.

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When a lady wants to tell a guy about her dilemma, she doesn’t want solutions. After a really terrible event or something really awkward happens, a girl wants a guy to listen. All she wants is someone to listen and offer comforting words.

She isn’t looking for solutions. I repeat; she doesn’t want solutions. Unless she specifically asks you for a suggestion on how to fix the situation, just be quiet and listen or else you’re going to make her even angrier. This is the 411 the low down so if guys don’t understand why they’re making the girls in their life annoyed this will clarify it.

After a horrible occurrence, a girl wants the guy to listen and say how sorry he is that happened to her or that the person was out of line. Whatever it is, play along because the girl wants you to listen, act surprised, and then you can talk about it. It might help to poke fun at the other person.

It may also be helpful if you volunteer to give a back rub, embrace, or massage their shoulders. These are comforting to the girl, and it allows them to calm down. It would be exceptionally nice if you offered to take the girl out for some ice cream or to get a drink. A little sympathy goes a long ways.

What girls do not want be told is what they did wrong in the situation. I’m pretty sure the girl has already analyzed the situation, and doesn’t need you to tell her why she failed at something.

Despite what you may think, girls have a lot of common sense and don’t need a guy to tell them why they failed on a test. They have already determined whether they need to study more, didn’t comprehend the concept, were graded unjustly, forgot a part of the theory, made stupid mistakes, or whatever it is. In the end, she knows the setback and she knows how to fix it.

Just today I was in a conversation with a guy and I was telling him about a problem. He didn’t even listen to the full story before he started offering suggestions. The point is that I wanted him to be irritated just like I was. I had already taken care of the circumstance, but I just wanted him to listen and sympathize.

It was then that I flat out said “I don’t want solutions I just wanted you to empathize.” This opened the ways of communication in the workplace because now he understands what I require from the conversation when I tell him something and I know that when he talks to me he wants solutions.

Sometimes, it is easiest to just say what you want out of the conversation and you can actually cover what both parties in the conversation need. Because guys and girls think differently; maybe this will open up communication and everyone can get what they need out of the conversation.

This is also part of the reason that having a girlfriend is so imperative. They are very supportive and can give the kind of sympathy and backing that many guys just can’t seem to give. There is a difference in what the expectations are from the conversation and when you understand what each others needs in the conversation are, a lot can be accomplished and things run much better.

Diane Johnson graduated with a Bachelor of Science from the University of Utah and enjoys writing about current events, politics, college degrees, online education, and the office.

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Trust. If you cannot have faith in your partner, day to day life will be very difficult. You will always be worrying when they are away at conference venues for example, about what they are doing and who with? These insecurities are likely to make you unreasonable and overprotective, which in turn will lead to arguments and actually can often force you further apart from your partner. It can be difficult to trust a partner if you have had previous bad experiences, but ask yourself this, if the worst happens and someone is unfaithful to you, were they really the right person?

Communication. Every couple has issues and country to popular belief, these are not what split people up, it’s actually the inability to deal with them and reach an understanding.Without open channels of communication between the two of you, the chances of your relationship surviving are slim. Talking calmly and sensibly to each other is the best way to really get to understand problems and how the other person feels about them. If this is not possible then you might need a mediator to sit in with you.

Love . Without love, being with someone and sharing so much with them can be a real strain.People drift apart without love as it is the relationship fabric that bonds people together through tough times. It is possible to fall back in love with someone and you don’t need to renew you vows at fairy tale castle weddings to do so. You do however have to first like them as a person and find them attractive in some way, be it their looks or their personality.

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