Some Ideas To Get Your Ex Back

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Getting back with your ex is pretty difficult and in this article I will give you some ideas on how to get your ex back. These ideas have been tested and proven to work. These ideas may seem to run contrary to your natural instincts but it is this ‘breaking of the mould’ that results in success. Its not always easy but if you stick to tried and proven ways it is possible to get your ex back.

A staggering percentage of people who try to get back with previous partners fail. The number is variously estimated to be between 80% and 98%!

If you are one of those trying to get your ex back you need to be aware that your chances of success are not great. Statistically you are likely to fail.

But there are a few proven ways to get your ex back which all revolve around your behaviour at certain points in the break-up.

Here are 3 things you need to be aware of, 3 things you must not do and three things you must do if you want any chance of getting back with your ex.

* Be Aware Of: The fact that you are both hurting. Yes even if your ex broke up with you there will be pain on that side too. However your responses to that pain could be totally different.
* You may be the only one trying to get back together again. Sadly many people respond to a break-up by cutting all ties and trying to move on as fast as possible – even when they would rather still be with that person.
* Well intended advice from friends and family is usually wrong. Your friends and family have a bias towards you and will likely tell you what you want to hear rather than what you need to hear.

* Do Not: Talk badly about your ex. This is easy to do immediately after a break up and is a natural response in defending yourself and attempting to validate your actions. Anything you say can and will be held against you at a later stage.
* Stalk your ex. Stalking includes incessant phoning, on going e-mails and text messages. Driving by or calling on at their place of residence or work because “I was in the area”. Going to places where you know they might hang out on the off chance of “bumping into them.” Stalking indicates desperation and that is a sure way to chase them even further.
* Use scare tactics such as the emergency call – please contact me urgently- threaten to do anything irrational. Putting a guilt trip on your ex is not going to help in the unlikely event that you do get back together.

* Do: Take control of yourself. This means STOP! Take a good look at yourself and determine the best course of action forward. This might mean no contact with your ex until you have a proven strategy to go forward. Get a grip on and understand your emotions. At the same time understand that your ex is going through similar emotions and, like you, may not be acting as they normally would.
* Give them space. A lot of break ups are simply because people get claustrophobic, are unsure of their feelings, scared to make a long term commitment or just need a break from you. Accept and respect this and allow them the space they need. Do the wrong thing and you are guaranteed to push them away.
* Write a hand written note. This can be anything positive. The best approach is a note thanking them for something they have done for you, don’t disclose what it is because it will create a bit of mystery. In the note maybe ask if you can meet for a coffee so you can thank them personally. If this is successful do not stay longer than half an hour, in fact 20 minutes is ideal. Simply deliver your thank you message over coffee and talk about things other than your relationship. Keep the subjects positive and upbeat. Make sure you are the one that ends it with a “Gotta dash as I promised mum I’d take her for her hair appointment” or something just as innocent but caring. Don’t use this if your ex hates your mother!

Now that you have some ideas to get your ex back you will have realized that you have to behave in a manner that is positive. You want to put forward your positive attitude and not a negative one. Acting like a lost soul simply highlights your weaknesses and no-one wants to go out with a weak or negative person.

You have to realize that you are starting over again but you have a distinct advantage because you know each other’s likes and dislikes and you can emphasize and avoid these as necessary. Use some of these ideas to get your ex back and you should avoid being part of the horrible statistics that make up the failures.

Arnold Kolodziej uses his previous work experience to help people in all walks of life to solve personal problems. If you are trying to get back with your ex and would like more ideas on how to succeed then visit Second Chance where you will find ideas for the best shot at getting back with your ex. It’s worth fighting for isn’t it?

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Date: Tuesday, 5. January 2010 19:17
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