By Teddy Tedbos

Almost everyone in their life has had to go through a breakup. A breakup is a strange thing. Most things in life, the more you do them, the easier it becomes to do. With breakups no matter how many you’ve had to go through in the past, they certainly don’t become easier to go through.

After a breakup, unless the relationship was completely terrible, most people desire to get their ex back. In fact, sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they still desire to get their ex back. You really shouldn’t try to get back with your ex if they ever used physical violence or words to hurt you. That is not a meaningful relationship. If you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you, then consider yourself lucky.

Otherwise, most relationships follow a pretty predictable pattern. When you first meet someone everything is wonderful and new. They will do no wrong and you will do no wrong in their eyes. After a short while comfort sets in. You adjust to each other. When the excitement is gone and the comfort is there things in the relationship change. The little quirks you were willing to overlook before actually bother you now.

There is an expression: “Familiarity breeds contempt.” Truer words couldn’t be spoken for relationships. After a couple get relaxed and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts. This is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship. It takes work and effort to maintain a relationship. Usually, when things break, instead of getting repaired, the other person wants out of the relationship completely

Do you feel, despite it being over, your relationship is worth salvaging, even if the other person made it clear, it’s over? You need some answers on how get your ex back. Here are four steps you can take.

1.Say sorry

Saying you are sorry is one of the best how to get your ex back methods. Even if it doesn’t get your ex back, it’s usually the best first step. You must be sure that you say sorry for the right reasons. After a breakup it may be easy to blame yourself for everything. Remember, it takes two people to have a successful relationship. Knowing what exactly to apologize for is critical.

Whatever you do, when you apologize don’t let your ex bait you into an argument. The biggest irony of saying sorry to an ex is that it can easily lead to another argument. If you say you’re sorry, and your ex brings something else up, don’t get defensive. Stay calm, keep your emotions, your ego, and your pride to yourself.

2.Sit down and talk things out

If your ex is up to it, set a time where both of you may sit down and talk. Whatever you don’t beg, plead, cry, or force your ex into this. If they don’t want to, then just go to the next step. If they do agree, you’re going to have to keep your emotions in check. This isn’t the time to get into a argument again. Make it clear to your ex that you have no desire to bring blame into the discussion.

You want to talk about the issues objectively. If you talk just about the issues without assigning blame, you’ll get better results. It is best if you can get a therapist or an expert in the field of relationships involved with this, if at all possible.

3.Give some space

This might seem counter-intuitive to how to get your ex back. You have to remember just because you want to talk to them or see them, doesn’t mean they do. It is critical to allow the partner some space. A brief time away from each other, before you try to win them back, can give you both time to cool down and a chance for them to miss you. If you’re in touch with them all the time, they won’t be able to miss you.

4.Show them you care about yourself

Prove to them that you care about yourself. If you seem desperate, clingy, and whiny, you will not succeed. If you sit around the house waiting for them to call or keep checking your email every few minutes hoping to get their message, you’re not doing yourself any favors. Hang out with friends. Go to movies, go to concerts, go to the mall. Whatever, just get up and get out and live your life.

It’s better if you’re not there when your ex calls. Then they’ll be wondering what you’re doing. If you’re out and your cell rings and its your ex, don’t answer it. Let the call go to voice mail. The best thing to do is wait until the next day to call them back. Tell them you were unavailable, and you didn’t have time to call them back. This will probably shock them. You might even be able to get them to pursue you again.

The steps above are a starting point to help a relationship. Getting back with an ex is a bit more complicated than what is outlined here but it is a good start and will get you well on your way to getting your ex back. A more detailed step by step plan can greatly improve your chances of winning back your lost love.
By Teddy Tedbos.

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