How do you Make Up With The Ex? This is how it unfolded for me.

It all began in high school 1977. We first noticed each other in English class during a reading of Shakespeare’s ”A Midsummer Nights Dream”. I was reading the part of Helena & he played Demetrius, we had such fun & really got into the parts.

We got to talking later during lunch break & found we had quite a deal in common. He was quiet, strong, calm, sensitive type who got along with all but was never the life of the party, more the one you could always rely upon to show up, help out & make up the numbers. Not the handsome athletic type in the least, but he had that certain quiet charm.

Anyway to cut a long story short we started dating each other, just on a casual friendship basis at first, we were only 14, but as the school years carried on we were very much an item & voted the most likely couple to be together forever.

We were married after he graduated from college. He got a reasonable job with an engineering company & I (as was normal in those days) became a house wife. Though having a very active mind I had to keep that occupied by doing all types of part time study. We were happy living out our dream & had three children in the first six years which kept me occupied as well as our own house. All was going well.

Then something happened. I still to this day, cannot pinpoint exactly what it was. Whether I or he changed or became unsettled or if it was both of us stuck in our circle of friends/work/family the controlled safe environment we had created over the years. Feeling trapped in the square we called our life and disagreements began, just about little petty things to start but the animosity slowly grew & over a space of a few years these incidents became more frequent & heated. The children now reaching teenager years themselves were becoming noticeably affected and that was when I had had enough, I did not want my kids growing up in that simple attempts at contact but I was not ready, after a while he gave up. He picked the kids up every other weekend but I always made sure I was out at the time.

Eleven months went by. After a lot of soul searching, tears and self pity I had a revelation. I still loved him. It came as a bit of a shock but I was sure. But what to do about it? No contact for nearly a year. I felt like a teenager again, timid and shy not sure as to go about approaching a guy.

Having an analytical mind (love doing puzzles, sudoku my favourite at the moment) I sat down & worked out a plan. I knew from mutual friends that he had not gone out at all, just stayed home. He did not drink so I knew he was not getting drunk each night. I got a sheaf of paper and started writing. How to go about it all, what to do and say, what would work, what would not.

After several days of thinking, analysing, contemplating, getting advice from trusted friends and of course mum (still married to dad after 52 years). I had my plan and was ready to make the move, sure that I was making the correct decision, I knew that I loved him and wanted to be with him, not just for the sake of the kids, but from my heart.

Three months later we were all together again, a family once more.

It is now seven years later and we have never been happier. A lot of communication has been done, we have agreed on many points and agreed to disagree on others, but we are communicating, changing as required and once again very much in love. The children (the eldest now late teens) are happy again, we all sat down together (Grab realistic recommendations in the sphere of Furniture Woodworking Plans – study this webpage. The times have come when concise info is truly within your reach, use this possibility.

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