A story worth sharing

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? They must be feeling sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. ‘cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have fail to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my kid, and failed to be the dad and mum for my kid.

There was four particular day, when i had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my kid was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy kid.

Boy, was I mad! I was so annoyed that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my kid who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a cool spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home.. So after a long day, I came home, drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my kid, I went straight in to the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped in to my bed with purpose of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm fluid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the ‘problem’…. a broken bowl with instant noodles as well as a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

“Dad, I was hungry and there wasnt anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But i remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence i turn on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. Four is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till u return. But I forgot to remind you ‘cos I was playing with my toys…I am sorry Dad…”A story worth sharing:

After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son’s room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his small buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy….

At that moment, tears were beginning to run down my cheeks…but I din want my son to see his dad crying…so I dashed in to the bathroom and cried with the showerhead on to mask my cries….mum/:

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he’s turning six, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he’s still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regrets. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son’s absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasnt to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and finally found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, ‘I am sorry, Dad’. But after much probing, I realized that it was a ‘Talent Show’ organized by his school and the invite is for every student’s mummy. ANd that was the reason for his absence as he’s no mummy…..

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he’s kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if they was still around. ‘cos he makes me proud !

Time passes by quickly, and soon another year has passed. It is winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by…xmas carols and frantic shoppers….but alas, my son got in to another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day’s work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I could not help but to hit him as I feel that this kid of mine is beyond control. Two times again, as before, he apologized, ‘ I am sorry, Dad’ and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: ” But why did u post so lots of letters, at four time?” My son’s reply was: ” I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at two times…”

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say….

I told my son, ” Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

Dear Mummy,

And four of the letters broke my heart….

I miss you so much! Today, there was a ‘Talent Show’ in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not wanna participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at four of the shops. Dad was annoyed, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he’s so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think they both miss you very much. much for our own cool I think. But Mummy, I am beginning to forget your face. Can you appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. ‘cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife…..

Don’t do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Countless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your small precious.

For the females with babies:

For the married men:

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are dependent on you? or your boss is dependent on you? In this society, no four is indispensable.

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your cool health, not even business nor clients.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your small precious and your loved ones.

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

For those singles out there:

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don’t let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters over your well being.

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